Can you love each other even after realizing it's not all fun?
After reading a recent study in Glamour which reexamined the long-propagated myth that couples who live together before marriage have a higher chance of divorce, I felt ridiculously triumphant, wagging my finger in a self-aggrandizing "I told you so" to society at large.
Really, all of those articles were starting to depress me, especially since I'm engaged to a man I have been living with for the past four years. Far from believing the myth, I became convinced that my fiancé and I were just different from the rest of the world, luckier than most. Blame it on my desire to be different, but after reading the article, I started questioning why the myth has held for so long.
Was there any truth to it? I couldn't find any good reasons for not living together through my Internet searches, and I kept coming up with "because it is a sin" from religious organizations.
After scouring the web and relentlessly asking couples, singles and even my fiancé for opinions on the matter, I realized that how a couple deals with issues while cohabitating can be a predictor for successful marriages. I came up with the following list that reminds me of the age-old adage: You don't really know someone until you live with them.
5 Reasons Why Living Together Can Actually Decrease Your Chance of Future Divorce
1. Living together is the ultimate test.
Can your relationship survive the less glamorous aspects of cohabitating? Will you have repeated arguments about dishes and dirty laundry?
Living together is not full of the stuff you see in rom-coms (it can often seem like The Break Up), and university studies show that believing movies' portrayal of ideal relationships can increase your chance for dissatisfaction in your relationships. Sorry, Bella fans, Edward Cullen is not real. Your love will really be tested.
If you can love each other even after realizing that it's not always going to fun, chances are, you will be in better shape for your marriage.
2. Couples who live together learn about each other and start to form an identity working as a team.
They can learn (or not) how to balance their relationship, careers and even finances together. Through time, the other person's priorities and values will become clear, and couples can see if these really align before putting marriage on the table.
3. When you get into a fight with a significant other who you live with, you can't just walk away and play the "who-calls-first-to-apologize" game.
You go home to the same bed, and getting a hotel room or crashing at a friend's house after every fight just isn't viable 100% of the time. This is where the communication and people skills you learned in college and/or while growing up can really make a difference.
Will you talk it out, or will you just go to bed angry? If you two just can't get along, it's better to learn this now.
4. Your sex life and passion will be tested.
Will you find your man attractive even after he leaves the bathroom door open when he's, um, doing his business? I hate to be the breaker of bad news, but yes, a lot of the mystery is lost if you don't do anything about it. The lingerie that you ripped off last night in a passionate frenzy will be waiting on the floor the next morning, waiting to be sorted into the delicate laundry pile.
There's a reason so many articles point to the importance of not getting "too comfortable." Don't always wear sweats together, get off the couch every once in awhile, go on dates. If you're both willing to consciously keep the flame alive, you're on good footing for a great marriage.
5. As one writer from The Frisky mentioned, furniture shopping can be the beginning of a relationship's demise.
Sharing furniture can be problematic, when personal belongings become "ours" and not "mine." A blended, compromised style will be confusing, please no one and can foster resentment for years.
One married couple literally blamed their varying home décor tastes as a basis for separation. The husband said that he just wasn't into his wife's Victorian-style décor, and the wife resented him since he agreed with the décor in the beginning of their relationship.
Co-habitating can shine light on the couples' differences, and help them decide if it's worth reconciling their differences before they get married.
What do you think? Should a couple live together before getting married?
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